More About ‘Holding Time’

What is holding time?

Developed by psychiatrist Martha G. Welch, M.D., this revolutionary technique restores and strengthens the bond between you and your child. Based on attachment theory, Dr. Welch developed the technique in her work with autistic children. She quickly discovered that normal children responded positively to holding time as well.

When your children behave in ways that upset you -- or you do something to upset your children -- the connecting bond between you is weakened. Holding time is a specific, scientific method that combines physical contact with the expression of emotion, allowing you and your child to safely share your feelings. It replaces the use of threats, withdrawal of privileges, spanking, or time-outs, all of which increase distance and further weakening the bond between you and your child. Instead, this healing technique enhances successful communication and strengthens the attachment between mother and child.

Holding time can be used with all ages, from infants to adults. It is intuitive and easy to learn, and it works in all kinds of situations. It is an empowering experience for you as a parent and a nurturing experience for your child. I teach and coach holding time through individual counseling sessions with parents, joint sessions with you and our children, and through group counseling.